This was the message from Tiffany Peterson‘s FB Live training this morning. You don’t need anyone’s permission or approval to be successful, or to create the lifestyle and business you love.
She was coaching us on playing small in our business, and what could potentially be holding us back.
Here’s a big one:
Fear of criticism or disapproval from friends or family, or even from people we don’t know. Really? Yes! And so what! Not everyone is going to like you, and that’s fine. Don’t take it personally, especially from someone who is not supporting you and your family, or paying your bills. Their opinion does not matter. And what others think of you is none of your business.
Once you can shine a light on what is subconsciously holding you back, you can take action to work through, around or over it.
Have your own back… and take the power back from people who may be criticising or discouraging you not to move ahead. You don’t need their approval. You’re not a kid anymore, you’re an adult, and you don’t answer to anyone other than yourself.
Stop being stingy with your gifts! Share what you got with everyone! You are an intelligent, successful, amazing and beautiful person, and don’t allow anyone to tell you differently. Even if you never heard these words from parents, family, teachers or others, it doesn’t mean they are not true.
Many of us are still operating from old negative thoughts or ‘tapes’ that have been playing in our heads since we were kids. What your parents said and how they treated you sticks in your brain, and can shape how we view ourselves and our abilities as adults. I’ve been working through some of this stuff in the last couple of days, specifically about my mother, (sorry, I said it), and I started doing the emotional work to get unstuck.
It’s not easy, and it involves tears, but I can honestly say that I feel like an emotional burden has been lifted, a sort of shift in my feelings, and I’m seeing myself now through a different lens, one that makes me really grateful and happy-ish.
Here’s the book I’m reading now: The Power Is Within You, by Louise Hay. Super powerful and it will help you on your emotional healing journey. I love that what I do is help people know that they can be successful, and they can do whatever they decide to do.